we all have different goals and ambitions. We all have a part to play, and therefore we should not over-estimate or under-estimate our own value in comparison to others.
Sport & Coaching
We apply labels to ourselves, and depending on who is reading the label the meaning may change. Describing someone as an immigrant, conservative, liberal, *insert religion*, *insert nationality*, or Woking FC supporter means different things to different people. We love labels. The problem isn’t that we use labels, the problem is that we allow them to become a definition of the whole person.
The only thing you can control is your own performance, and if performances continue to improve, the results will naturally follow. If they don’t, it is because there is something wrong in the preparation.
Building a strong mental toughness, and being bold enough to accept that defeats will litter the path to success is no easy thing. It takes boldness and courage to admit that on the day we just didn’t perform at our best and we can do better.
When we think of a “winning mindset” we tend to overlook the preparation, practice, and performance required to achieve goals. Often we win or lose long before we face an opponent.
Practice is what they do to get better so when they meet their teams or get into the environment where we can apply new tricks they are ready to go. And there, in a nutshell is the differentiating factor – practice improves the individual, rehearsal improves the group.
If there is something you can work on, practice it and then take it to rehearsal to see how it can work to improve the team or group. Don’t wait until a skill is needed, bring the solution before the problem arises. The worst case scenario is that you improve yourself, and that is never a bad thing.
Does development in a team sport always have to be about the game, or can we also help our kids develop by encouraging them to help develop others? I think we can do more than teach sport and I think the burden on coaches is to win through developing character, integrity, teamwork, effort, and attitude – not focusing on how to win games.
Mental illness is what it says it is, an illness. It doesn’t care if you are strong or weak, rich or poor, male or female or any other demographic.
The moment we stop thinking about what we can do better, how we can improve, and we give control over to external factors is the moment we are destined to lose.
You’re wearing your lucky team jersey with your lucky number on the back. you put your left sock on first, you sing the magic song, and you’ve performed your pre-match ritual. Nothing can possibly go wrong, right? Silly superstition, or is there something more to it?
If we don’t teach our kids to put in the hard work to win, and we allow the easy route of cheating, they will never know the feeling of working hard to achieve something. They will never feel the pride of accomplishing something. The will know what it feels like to win, but they will never know what it feels like to be a winner.
A coach has the ability to make a player feel great about what they have done, whether the team won or lost. Coaches have the ability to give players memories that will stay with them a lifetime, reinforcing hard work and effort, and reducing pain from things a player cannot control. The key is really to decide what the coach wants to focus on, because they have the ability to shape the identity of a kid at crucial stages of development.
Like any area in life, not all behaviours are beneficial or helpful to society and punishments, whether they need to be acted upon or not, need to exist. A player can’t walk on to the field and pick up the ball with their hands and throw it in the goal. Doing so will result in a disallowed goal, a free kick, and depending on the age group, a yellow or red card. They are punished for this.
If we continue to praise mastered tasks we’ll see stagnation. If we encourage the status quo, we are by default discouraging development. We don’t criticise our teens for being potty trained, but we don’t praise their toilet-skills either. Praising our teens for their accomplishments is great, but if we want to see further accomplishment we encourage them to keep building on their previously learned skills.