Success is never final, and failure is never fatal. OK, that’s crap. There are many times when failure has been fatal. But for the most part, failure is just an experience, totally redeemable, and we can learn from and move on from it.
Whether you learned anything or not, you aren’t a failure. It is not possible for you to be a failure. A failure is a temporary event or action. No matter how many times you fail it can never take away your value as a human.
Consequence’s through rewards or punishment are how we raise children, encourage team members, coach athletes, discourage criminal behavior, and any number of other behaviors we want to see modified in some way. What if we adjusted our sights a little and in our quest for self-improvement change our patterns by changing the things that influence us?
We often think about willpower as being the strength to resist something – the piece of cake, the third cookie, another handful of Doritos. What if willpower is better viewed as a motivator towards something else, or doesn’t even exist?
The only thing you can control is your own performance, and if performances continue to improve, the results will naturally follow. If they don’t, it is because there is something wrong in the preparation.
Building a strong mental toughness, and being bold enough to accept that defeats will litter the path to success is no easy thing. It takes boldness and courage to admit that on the day we just didn’t perform at our best and we can do better.
When we think of a “winning mindset” we tend to overlook the preparation, practice, and performance required to achieve goals. Often we win or lose long before we face an opponent.
If your goal is to quit smoking and you don’t change your lifestyle, are you sure nothing will be different? If you are struggling with addiction and on the edge of losing everything, are you sure things will be the same5 years from now?
We’re coming up to Christmas and all the business that brings. We start to put off plans and thoughts for the New Year. Why? Because a New Year being a New Start!
Except it doesn’t.
Practice is what they do to get better so when they meet their teams or get into the environment where we can apply new tricks they are ready to go. And there, in a nutshell is the differentiating factor – practice improves the individual, rehearsal improves the group.
If there is something you can work on, practice it and then take it to rehearsal to see how it can work to improve the team or group. Don’t wait until a skill is needed, bring the solution before the problem arises. The worst case scenario is that you improve yourself, and that is never a bad thing.
The problem isn’t that “You can’t teach ambition!” The problem is that too many people who see themselves as “ambitious” don’t realise that not everyone has the same life goals and ambitions, or views success in the same way.
Slow down. Take some time to reflect on your journey. Actively listen to what people are saying. Don’t sacrifice the journey for the destination.
I remember a phrase my grandparents used to use when I messed something up “More haste, less speed.” Basically, the more you rush to get something done, the more likely you are to mess it up.
Does development in a team sport always have to be about the game, or can we also help our kids develop by encouraging them to help develop others? I think we can do more than teach sport and I think the burden on coaches is to win through developing character, integrity, teamwork, effort, and attitude – not focusing on how to win games.