There is no magic button to instantly remove old habits and program new ones. It takes time, and as we work on new patterns stress is still happening.
Sometimes it is very easy to look at the one heavy burden causing the majority of stress, and we fail to see the many smaller items that are adding to the strain.
Stress can cause sickness and disease, but it can also bring about success and strength. Stress happens, how we deal with it is critical to our well-being.
Not one of us on this planet is able to easily achieve all we ever dreamed of without hard work, failure, missed goals, self-doubt, and most importantly, the support of someone we trust.
If your goal is to quit smoking and you don’t change your lifestyle, are you sure nothing will be different? If you are struggling with addiction and on the edge of losing everything, are you sure things will be the same5 years from now?
We’re coming up to Christmas and all the business that brings. We start to put off plans and thoughts for the New Year. Why? Because a New Year being a New Start!
Except it doesn’t.
If we don’t teach our kids to put in the hard work to win, and we allow the easy route of cheating, they will never know the feeling of working hard to achieve something. They will never feel the pride of accomplishing something. The will know what it feels like to win, but they will never know what it feels like to be a winner.
Like any area in life, not all behaviours are beneficial or helpful to society and punishments, whether they need to be acted upon or not, need to exist. A player can’t walk on to the field and pick up the ball with their hands and throw it in the goal. Doing so will result in a disallowed goal, a free kick, and depending on the age group, a yellow or red card. They are punished for this.
I have no problem with “Whoo!”, encouragement is great, but it needs to be for things we want to see in the future – new things, beneficial things, growth. I used to give my kids toys when they pooped on the toilet instead of in their diapers. They are now 14 and 16, they don’t get toys for that anymore. We don’t praise and reward things that were previous development steps in everydaty life, why would we do it in sports?