If you have been chasing happiness only to find misery, try authenticity for a while. Be real with yourself and others. What is there to lose?
Depression, anxiety, or any other mental illnesses do not have to be caused by something. A certain situation may exacerbate the situation and environment may be a factor, but it did not cause it. People are mentally ill because they have a mental illness.
Take one small step to create a better you, and then tomorrow take another small step, and then another. Think of it as entering The Biggest Loser, except your mind is being worked out and made healthier.
Mental illness is what it says it is, an illness. It doesn’t care if you are strong or weak, rich or poor, male or female or any other demographic.
The problem with fear is that it is a virus. On the one hand it is fear that keeps us alive, and although it isn’t pleasant to experience it, there are benefits. Fear is the reason we look both ways before we step into the road to cross the street, or the reason we don’t hold a metal pole to the sky in the thunderstorm. Fear, in the right circumstance, is a good thing that keeps us alive. It is a critical component of our survival instinct. On the other hand, just like cowpox, fear can be devastating if left untreated and allowed to run amok.
I became a Stevenage FC supporter on January 4th 1997 for no other reason than I went to see Stevenage play Birmingham in the FA Cup and met some people who accepted me. At the time life was a little shaky and I was encountering a lot of opposition from people I had trusted and respected who in turn betrayed me. I found acceptance in this rowdy bunch of Boro fans. They had no idea who I was, what my history was, where I was from, or anything else. They accepted me unconditionally. I was hooked, and 20 years and a move half way around the world, I am still Boro for life.
The majority of people who commit suicide do so because they feel the world would be better off without them. In fact, suicide letters in a study revealed that this was the difference between people who completed suicide and those who attempted suicide. People who succeeded felt they had nothing to offer the world. We can do better.
Create your own goals and take steps to achieve them. Don’t compare your success to the success (perceived or otherwise) of others. Compare your success to the goals you want to achieve for yourself, and I guarantee that while you are taking steps to meet your goals you will feel better about yourself.