Success is never final, and failure is never fatal. OK, that’s crap. There are many times when failure has been fatal. But for the most part, failure is just an experience, totally redeemable, and we can learn from and move on from it.
Month: March 2018
We allow other people’s goals to become our goals. In many cases this isn’t a bad thing, we go further when we work together, but we need to find a way to make both happen, and make sure the goals have value.
Our society is set up to make us feel that whatever we are doing, it is never enough. It seems that sometimes we think the only way we can find success is through extreme, ongoing, and daily stress. But when we think of the toil we are taking on our bodies and souls, are we really on a path to success?
Humans are not failures. We get things wrong. We make mistakes. We make bad choices. We experience failure. We are not failures. Ever. No matter what. We are people.
Success, like failure, is nothing more than an experience, and further more, it is a perception of an experience. Just one experience in the whole jigsaw of life. Don’t let an experience define you.
Whether you learned anything or not, you aren’t a failure. It is not possible for you to be a failure. A failure is a temporary event or action. No matter how many times you fail it can never take away your value as a human.
It’s not easy to change a behavior, especially if it has been reinforced over a period of time but by examining the ABC of behavior, and some honest self-awareness and reflection, you can be successful.
The next time you want to Netflix-binge but you know you’ll feel guilty afterwards, do a deal with yourself. Reward yourself with as much Netflix as you want once you have completed all the goals you want to achieve. It may not be free Netflix, but it’s something better – guilt-free Netflix. If that doesn’t get the dopamine flowing nothing will.
Consequence’s through rewards or punishment are how we raise children, encourage team members, coach athletes, discourage criminal behavior, and any number of other behaviors we want to see modified in some way. What if we adjusted our sights a little and in our quest for self-improvement change our patterns by changing the things that influence us?
Working towards your dreams isn’t easy. It will be a challenge, but it isn’t insurmountable. With the right plan, tools, and team you can start bringing your blueprint to life.