In the last article we looked at how we can lose sight of our actual goals when we get lost. It’s a natural tendency to want security and something familiar when we are struggling and overwhelmed. We will often move our focus to wanting to find something familiar rather than the original mission we set out to fulfill.
I mentioned last week that I have a friend who is an architect, and he told me about blueprints. They are the basis for a design. The original blueprint will be around 80-90% of what the final product looks like, but there is room for change as either the customer, or the people on site need to adjust things. Often in life we either don’t have a blueprint, or we throw it away when things don’t go as expected. Very often, in fact, probably most often, we just give up. There are more than enough distractions to keep our lives full, or our minds numb. Giving up is often the easiest way.
From that point, we continue to move further away from our goals, carried by outside forces, and lose sight of where we were going, our goals, and our hope. There are so many reasons this can happen, but mostly it is because it’s the way of society. We live in a world where our natural state is stress and pressure. We don’t do well at talking about problems, and more importantly our sense of community is extremely low. The upshot of it is that a blueprint is a communication of a plan. The architect doesn’t build houses, they design them. The site manager doesn’t design houses, they plan the practical steps. The builder is the one who puts it all together. It takes more than one person to make a blueprint come to life.
We can’t do this alone.
Here are today’s three takeaways:
1 – What does your blueprint look like? Do you have one?
2 – What is your plan for when something changes? Do you change the blueprint to go further from the original design, or do you find a way to make make the change work with what you have, keeping the integrity of the plan in tact?
3 – Who are you building with?
Not all who wander are lost. Not all who are lost wander. Sometimes we stay where we are, unsure of what to do next, and so we do nothing. We are created in such a way that social support is a necessity, not a luxury.
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