Have you ever wanted to start again? Just switch life off and back on again? You’re not alone. I am pretty sure that everyone has wanted a re-do at some point or another.
When I was a kid I used to be a delivery driver, and unlike my friend, I hated going into London. I had no idea where anything was, and one-way systems drive me nuts. Somehow I always found the way to my destination, but I found some of the most creative routes imaginable. There are many life lessons that can be learned driving around big cities, especially if you don’t know your way around all that well.
The biggest problem is that you have to go with the flow. You hit a one-way system and you become a plaything to the gods of traffic lights and lane changes, leaving you with very few options other than to follow the roads around the maze until you find an escape.
When we get confused or respond negatively to stress, we lose sight of our real goal. We have a tendency to want to fix the problem rather than achieve our goals. When we’re lost we may not be where we want to be, and we may even be carried further away from where we want to be with no ability to turn back, but there are other routes. However you got to where you are, your destination is still in the same place.
Finally, going back to the start may in fact be a longer route. You may be closer to where you want to be than you were when you started, it’s just that now there is more confusion and a desire for that which is familiar. Again, we need to make sure we are focused on where we want to be, not just trying to find something familiar.
We are on a journey, and sometimes we get lost on our way to meeting our goals. Often we want to go back and return to what seemed to be more secure and safe times. The reality is there is no going back, and even if we could, we now have new experiences which would make it different. We can only start from where we are, and that’s OK.
Here are today’s three takeaways:
1 – Life often presents us with detours. Sometimes we end up far, far away from where we wanted to be. While we can’t restart the journey, we can find a way to get where we want to be.
2 – Focus on the solution, not the problem. If we look to solve problems we have made our goals much smaller.
3 – Just because something is familiar, it doesn’t mean it’s safe or the best option. Eventually, stuck in it for long enough, we would become familiar with the one-way system but that doesn’t mean it’s good for us.
Looking back at how things were, and the things we should have done differently is easy, but unless we look at the past as a learning experience so we can build our experience and know what to do in the future, there is little benefit in it. The good news is that we can make positive changes today.
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