Given the option, the person who has faith will pick the better thing later rather than settle for something lesser. Is this how come kids who can wait for the second marshmallow are less likely to experience divorce? They waited for the something better instead of settling? Is willpower really obedience, or is it something else?
Month: January 2018
We often think about willpower as being the strength to resist something – the piece of cake, the third cookie, another handful of Doritos. What if willpower is better viewed as a motivator towards something else, or doesn’t even exist?
The only thing you can control is your own performance, and if performances continue to improve, the results will naturally follow. If they don’t, it is because there is something wrong in the preparation.
Building a strong mental toughness, and being bold enough to accept that defeats will litter the path to success is no easy thing. It takes boldness and courage to admit that on the day we just didn’t perform at our best and we can do better.
When we think of a “winning mindset” we tend to overlook the preparation, practice, and performance required to achieve goals. Often we win or lose long before we face an opponent.
By allowing people (whether they are mentally healthy or not) to simply be themselves, we take so much pressure of them, ourselves, and our relationship. If we simply help people to follow their path instead of “helping” them follow a path we think is right, we can create a much better world.
Most of us have a decent enough self-awareness to know what makes us different from “the norm”. Tall people know they are tall. Short people know they are short. If someone is 6ft 11ins they don’t need to go to a clothing store to be told “Wow, you don’t fit in normal sized clothes.” It’s not helpful.