You don’t have to change the world, but you do have a choice of paths. Which will you choose today: “I can’t change it, so what’s the point in trying?” or “I made a difference to that one.”?
We allow other people’s goals to become our goals. In many cases this isn’t a bad thing, we go further when we work together, but we need to find a way to make both happen, and make sure the goals have value.
Our society is set up to make us feel that whatever we are doing, it is never enough. It seems that sometimes we think the only way we can find success is through extreme, ongoing, and daily stress. But when we think of the toil we are taking on our bodies and souls, are we really on a path to success?
Humans are not failures. We get things wrong. We make mistakes. We make bad choices. We experience failure. We are not failures. Ever. No matter what. We are people.
Success, like failure, is nothing more than an experience, and further more, it is a perception of an experience. Just one experience in the whole jigsaw of life. Don’t let an experience define you.
Whether you learned anything or not, you aren’t a failure. It is not possible for you to be a failure. A failure is a temporary event or action. No matter how many times you fail it can never take away your value as a human.
It’s not easy to change a behavior, especially if it has been reinforced over a period of time but by examining the ABC of behavior, and some honest self-awareness and reflection, you can be successful.
The next time you want to Netflix-binge but you know you’ll feel guilty afterwards, do a deal with yourself. Reward yourself with as much Netflix as you want once you have completed all the goals you want to achieve. It may not be free Netflix, but it’s something better – guilt-free Netflix. If that doesn’t get the dopamine flowing nothing will.
Consequence’s through rewards or punishment are how we raise children, encourage team members, coach athletes, discourage criminal behavior, and any number of other behaviors we want to see modified in some way. What if we adjusted our sights a little and in our quest for self-improvement change our patterns by changing the things that influence us?
Working towards your dreams isn’t easy. It will be a challenge, but it isn’t insurmountable. With the right plan, tools, and team you can start bringing your blueprint to life.
Not all who wander are lost. Not all who are lost wander. Sometimes we stay where we are, unsure of what to do next, and so we do nothing.
We are on a journey, and sometimes we get lost on our way to meeting our goals. Often we want to go back and return to what seemed to be more secure and safe times. The reality is there is no going back, and even if we could, we now have new experiences which would make it different.
The moral of the story is that there are infinite possibilities, but instead of exploring we allow our fear to tie us to one path, mostly a well-trodden calf-path. Fear not, and go boldly into the unknown!
We can walk confidently through a world of danger, but when it comes to our personal fear we will allow our thoughts and energy to be focused on one thing that consumes us.
Fear can often cause more harm than good. It makes us do weird things. We don’t always think straight.